It takes a real leap of faith to follow God's lead and to know when you are being led and not just succumbing to your own desires. I can attest to the difference. I have been led to participate in many mission trips, I have been led to lead small groups, I have been led to be part of our church ministry, and I have been led to care for the children in the orphanage we sponsor in Guatemala. www.canicakids.weebly.com and I can tell you, everything I have been led to do has produced amazing results in not only me but those that I touch. I have also ventured out on my own, simply for my own desires. That is when disaster strikes. That is when I am miserable, I am not effective and I am sure I am a poor example of a leader on those occasions.
This is where we have to learn not to lean on our free will that God bestowed upon us. This is where we need to learn to wait on the Lord and listen for his answers. It takes work and time and practice, but you can truly come to know when you are flowing your own heart vs following God's lead.
The other thing to remember, being a leader, does not mean being a boss, it means being an example and knowing how to serve those your are leading. Jesus himself washed the feet of His disciples. He was the ultimate servant and the ultimate leader. Thinking like this gives a whole new meaning to the question "what would Jesus do?" That shouldn't be a slogan but it should be our way of life.
Of course, most of us are not gifted with all the love, wisdom, knowledge and teaching that Jesus has. WE can though, find out what we are gifted in and not ignore it. We need to know that each of us has been given a gift that will allow us to follow God's lead. Do not ignore that feeling in your gut, that Holy Spirit nudge, that is you being led. Learn how to follow and you will learn how to lead.