Initially this came to mind because my husband and I are in charge of the pre marital counseling for our church and we have offered a number of marriage small groups. We have learned an awful lot over the years and it has strengthened our marriage. One thing that comes up often, and usually this is from women but not always; I shouldn't have to ask him to do that or I shouldn't have to ask her to help me. She/He knows I need help or I want that or that needs to be done. This line of thinking carries over into many of our other relationships as well. So and so knows me, they should know that is what I wanted or that is what I wanted them to do for me. They should have gotten the hint. etc. etc. This list goes on. I am sure you are getting the picture here. You may even be guilty of having thought like this about your spouse or friend or co worker.
Matthew 7:7 is Jesus talking and the verse goes like this: 7“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.
This is Jesus speaking to us. Concentrate on the first part of this verse 'Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for.' Now let's put this together. We know from the book of Genesis that God made mankind in His own image. We know that God will supply all our needs. Mat 6:23 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. We know that God already knows all of our thoughts Psalms 139:2 You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
So, if our Lord knows our thoughts, our needs, our prayers and he made us in His own image; yet he still is telling us to "keep on asking" when we have a desire or a need, doesn't it make sense that we would also have to ask one another? This was my "aha" moment. We often time expect someone else to "just know" what we want or need. We expect our spouse to "just do" something for us. We actually get offended if we have to ask. Why? God knows what we want and need and He expects us to ask. He even tells us He will deliver if we ask.
So the next time you are getting frustrated because your spouse or whoever doesn't do something you think they should know they are expected to do, simply ask. I am willing to bet that more often than not, they will do what you asked. This idea of "I shouldn't have to ask" has now been blown out of the water as far as I am concerned. If God, who knows exactly what we want and need expects us to ask, then we should not expect that it would be different for our human relationships. That was my "scriptural aha" moment.