1In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2by observing your pure and reverent lives.
These are instructions for a Christian wife in how to conduct herself to have influence over her husband to accept Jesus Christ. She must be willing to yield her own rights for his sake by recognizing the God given role of leadership he has in the family and helping him to fulfill it. (this is submission, an act of Godly love to better your husband, not being run over or a slave to him). Conduct yourself in a gentle and peaceful spirit. This type of behavior will show your husband who Christ is, through you, through your behavior and your word.
3Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 6For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.
True beauty is not dependent on outward appearance. All the fancy stuff may impress others but they do not impress God. Do not let those things of the world influence you and take priority over what God has given you and what comes from within your true spirit. Christian wives must remain loyal to Christ and his Word and to their families. When you get seduced and obsessed with the world's definition of beauty, your loyalty gets tested.
7In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.
Peter talks about 3 things here that a husband needs to be concerned about in his relationship with his wife. You must be understanding, showing a self-sacrificing Christ like love. You need to treat her with respect and as an equal partner in the inheritance that God provides through salvation and eternal life. You must take the lead in submitting your own interests and concerns for the good of your family and wife. Treasure her and give her every reason to love and help you. As a husband you must never abuse your wife or treat her improperly. If you fail to live according to these standards that honor God properly, this will damage your own relationship with God. This damage will create a barrier between you and your prayers and God.
8Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude. 9Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing.
Peter now addresses us all, regardless of weather we are a husband or wife, married or not. We are to love each other, be forgiving and now judge. We always pay back with a blessing no matter how we are treated. That is what we are called to do in order to be in a position to receive God's blessing.
10For the Scriptures say,
“If you want to enjoy life
and see many happy days,
keep your tongue from speaking evil
and your lips from telling lies.
11Turn away from evil and do good.
Search for peace, and work to maintain it.
12The eyes of the lord watch over those who do right,
and his ears are open to their prayers.
But the lord turns his face
against those who do evil.”
Peter is actually quoting from the OT here. He is referring to Psalms 34:13-16. You see God's Word is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. The emphasis here is that you can do evil in both words and actions and that you should instead pursue peace. God is always watching over us and see's what we do and knows what we think. He will honor those that walk in love but you are not in a position to receive God's blessing if you are doing evil.
Suffering for Doing Good
13Now, who will want to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats. 15Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it. 16But do this in a gentle and respectful way. Keep your conscience clear. Then if people speak against you, they will be ashamed when they see what a good life you live because you belong to Christ. 17Remember, it is better to suffer for doing good, if that is what God wants, than to suffer for doing wrong!
It is our hearts for Christ that set us apart from others. We have to know God and His Word to explain our faith and to be a right witness for the Lord. We have to always be prepared to give and answer and that means be willing to do so. Even if you are going to be challenged or persecuted, you can't be afraid. By standing up for your beliefs and convictions you are showing others the life you lead in Christ. We are told it is better to suffer for doing God's will than the suffering we will receive if we don't.
18Christ suffered for our sins once for all time. He never sinned, but he died for sinners to bring you safely home to God. He suffered physical death, but he was raised to life in the Spirit.
Jesus came to this earth to give his life in our place and to pay for the penalty of our sins.
19So he went and preached to the spirits in prison—20those who disobeyed God long ago when God waited patiently while Noah was building his boat. Only eight people were saved from drowning in that terrible flood.
This is a difficult passage. According to the Fire Bible Study notes, this is actually one of the most difficult Bible passages to interpret. So for that reason I am simply going to copy and past those notes here for the above verse. 3:19 PREACHED TO THE SPIRITS. Vv. 18- 20 have long been among the most difficult Bible passages to interpret. (1) One view is that Christ, sometime between his death and resurrection (v. 18) or possibly after his ascension from earth, went to imprisoned angels who had defied God in Noah’s time (v. 20; cf. 2Pe 2:4- 5) and announced his victory over sin and Satan at the cross and his victory over death through his resurrection. Another interpretation is that Christ, by the Holy Spirit, proclaimed through the mouth of Noah (cf. 2Pe 2:5) a message of warning to the ungodly generation that was eventually destroyed in the great flood and who are now in Hades (see Lk 16:19- 31, note; see Rev 20:12, note) awaiting final judgment. This latter interpretation fits best with the context, which speaks of the disobedient and unsaved people of Noah’s day. It would also seem to fit with Peter’s statement that the Spirit of Christ spoke in times past through the prophets (2Pe 1:20- 21). (2) Neither this passage nor 4:6 teaches that those who did not follow God or accept Christ by faith during their earthly lifetime will have a second chance to accept forgiveness and spiritual salvation after death. By that time, one’s own choices have determined his or her eternal destiny, and all that remains is final judgment (see Heb 9:27; cf. Lk 16:26)
21And that water is a picture of baptism, which now saves you, not by removing dirt from your body, but as a response to God from a clean conscience. It is effective because of the resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Water baptism by itself does not bring spiritual salvation but it is a clear picture of the connection between being saved and the forgiveness of our sins. It symbolized becoming clean, going under and dying to the old you can emerging new, clean and born again without all the sin of the world. It is our public confession and an outward sign of our repentance as well as our pledge that we belong to Christ.
22Now Christ has gone to heaven. He is seated in the place of honor next to God, and all the angels and authorities and powers accept his authority.
The last verse speaks for itself.